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Should You Buy Maternity Swimwear? (Swimwear Tips By Trimester)

Dressing a pregnant body has its challenges.  Dressing a pregnant body in next-to-nothing is a whole different ball game.  One on hand, your boobs are fab.  On the other hand, depending on the trimester and the type of pregnancy, you are dealing with an expanding waistline (and butt), cellulite, odd skin discolorations and a whole host of other changes.  "Baring it all" takes on a whole new meaning.

First Trimester

If you will be going through the summer in your first trimester (and it's your first baby), the key thing to realize is this:  you will not actually look pregnant.  Your boobs will be nice and full (you may go up a cup size or two), and you will mostly likely look thick in the middle, but you will not necessarily look pregnant.  Here's the first trimester bikini body rundown:

Boobs:  Fab and full

Butt:  Most likely bigger, cellulite might start, even if you haven't ever had it before

Stomach:  At best it'll be soft, at worst, flabby

Rest of your body:  General softening - watch for muffin tops and back fat!

Best Swimwear Strategies For the First Trimester

1.  Try a swingy tankini top.

If you are very self-conscious about your thickening middle section, then a swingy tankini top is your best bet. 

Postpartum gals:  This swim option will also work post-baby to help cover any remaining jelly-belly. 

I've already mentioned the DKNY Faux Wrap Tankini pictured at left in red, but I also really like J.Crew's tankinis because they have a nice amount of swing.  The Twist Front Swing Top is shown strapless below, but does come with a detachable halter (which you'll need post-baby). 

 

Hip Moms, Prepare To Love Madewell.com (A more affordable, boho version of J. Crew)

Have you heard of Madewell?  It's a new concept store launched by the same folks that brought us J. Crew, and is, in fact, referred to in the media as "J. Crew's sister store".  From what I gather, the prices are roughly 20-30% less than J. Crew. 

What's the difference?  Madewell is a very tightly edited collection of clothing that leans to bohemian, rather than preppy (the look J. Crew is so famous for).  This tight editing makes it easy to shop (there's very little to weed through), and these forgiving bohemian silhouettes are perfect for camouflaging a multitude of post-baby body issues while remaining on-trend and hip.  And the lower price point doesn't hurt, either.

While Madewell stores have been around in select cities, Madewell.com just launched.  And I'm in love.  I'm betting this online retailer will quickly become a favorite.  It's hard to resist items like a perfectly slouchy T in just the right shade of gray (pictured at left), worn with an insanely cute-yet-mom-friendly bracelet that  manages to walk the line between tough and feminine (pictured at right).

And both pieces are each under $40.  Not bad.

Need more convincing? How about....

Reader Question: Craving Cropped Pants

Reader Question:

Okay, so it's now gotten hot where I live and I'm craving a shorter options for pants for work/play with kiddos. But a quick perusal of the stores this week left me swimming in a confusing sea of bermuda shorts, pedal pushers, capris, crops, and on and on. How can I tell what length pant is right for me? Or are they all equally right? I'm 5'9, thoroughly apple shaped, and constitutionally opposed to buying destroyed denim.

Thanks for your help!

Signed,

Confused about pants.
 

Answer:

No pant has greater potential to turn totally croptacular (particularly for those of us with bums and thighs or who are vertically challenged) than the cropped pant.  But done right, cropped pants are incredibly flattering and uber functional for moms.  

Mom Street Style - March 2010 Mom

I was impressed with Melissa's outfit (pictured at left) for several reasons.  Beginning with the fact that it takes a fairly brave women to wear dangley earrings and a silky top with a kiddo as young as her son.  Or a very experienced mom.  Melissa also has an older son, so I actually think she's both. 

Melissa is wearing a striped long-sleeve tee and silk-cotton ruffle front button down from LOFT.   Her jeans are Diesels, her earrings (and gorgeous cocktail ring pictured at the bottom of the post) are from Stella & Dot. 

Let's discuss:

What Target Does Best: Spring / Summer Picks

I have such a love-hate relationship with Target.  I even went so far as to call Target "mom crack" in a previous post.  But, eventually, I'm drawn back in.  Usually after issuing some ultimatum. 

To M:  "I am NEVER going to buy clothes at Target again!  I'm serious - it's my New Year's Resolution." 

Ultimatums usually get me in trouble.  Like my "I will never co-sleep" ultimatum, or my "My kid will NOT be a picky eater" ultimatum. (Yeah, right.)  The list goes on, really.

So true to form, despite my "resolution" this year, I have just returned - VICTORIOUS - from Target, loaded with all kinds of insanely cheap-yet-adorable clothing.  Sigh.  I'm back in love.  For now. 

The Liberty of London for Target Collection helped woo me back in, but it wasn't the only source of temptation under those fluorescent lights.  A perfect romper (thanks to M's post I have a full-on romper addiction), look-alike Hunter Rainboots, and a perfect tiny cross-body bag -- all under $20!!! -- sold me. 

Here are my favorite picks for Spring / Summer:

Reader Question: Help, I'm Pregnant and Going to Disney World, I Need Cute Comfy Shoes!

Reader Question

Hi there!  Love your blog!

I am going on a trip to Disney World in late May (God help me) with my husband's family. Our 2.5 year old will be along for the trip, and I will be about six months pregnant.

I am trying to find comfortable, breathable shoes to wear for this trip, that are also cute and stylish. My feet are wide to begin with, so pregnancy swelling+Disney crowds+heat and humidity will probably turn them into Fred Flintstone feet.

I'd appreciate any suggestions you can come up with. I'm feeling desperate.

Shani

PS: This trip was not my idea.

Reader Question: How To Minimize a Large Chest Without Showing Cleavage

Reader Question

Hi,

I am short, 5' 2" and have a large chest.  DD when not nursing and even larger right now as I am breastfeeding.  I don't feel comfortable, nor do I want to, show any cleavage.  My problem is since I am short and large chested I feel like I look rather stocky in my shirts.  Do you have any good suggestions for flattering short, well endowed women and still staying covered up?  I would love any suggestions.

Thanks so much!

Charee

Answer

This is a tough one!  Neither S. nor I are large chested, so we can’t for the life of us fathom why anyone would want to cover up the girls. We love the girls.  And one only gets to show them off for so many years in one’s lifetime. . .   but I guess this all goes back to people with curly hair wanting it straight, statuesque gals feeling awkward whilst their petite pals kill themselves on heels, and, in general, the grass being greener on the other side. 

So.  Here’s what we think: even though you don’t want to show cleavage, the basic rules of minimizing a large bosom are still the best advice here.  With some experimentation and a lot of trying-on, you can stick to these guidelines and maintain your modesty.  Here are the basics:

1.) Most flattering styles: wide v-necks, wide scoop-necks and wrap styles with cap sleeves, 3/4 sleeves and long sleeves.  And, most importantly, as you’re on the petite side, everything should hit you right at your hip bone (i.e., skip the tunics all-together, shop petites where ever you can and hem or bunch your tops up a little if you need to).    

2.) Least flattering styles: turtlenecks and round/crew necks (these increase the amount of fabric covering a voluminous bosom and make it look even larger).

3.) Most flattering fabrics: stick to thin knits and solids or small prints.  Add visual interest with accessories like stunning earrings (drawing attention to your face), hot shoes and handbags.    

4.) Least flattering fabrics: skip large prints (especially horizontal stripes--I note this because there are so many out there right now and they are not your friend), bulky fabrics, embellishments on or around the chest (including pockets), chunky necklaces and heavy knits. 

5.) Make sure you have really terrific underpinnings.  For all nursing mothers, but especially very large-chested ones, you really need nursing bras that fit well while lifting and separating.  Lifting and separating makes all the difference between a flattering fit and the dreaded uni-boob.

Layering
One of my favorite options for nursing moms in general is layering cardigans, shirts and jackets over camis, tanks and tees--these styles provide the coverage and accessibility you need to nurse on the fly--and are also a great option for large-chested moms to minimize. 

Try an open cardi like the Frenchi Ribbed Back Open Cardigan ($39).  I love it in this oatmeal color option with a cream or ivory scoop-neck tank.  Notice how the cardigan hits at the hip bone and creates a visual hourglass, cinching the waist in.  Avoid high/crew neck cardigans and stick to deep v styles instead.  Wear with your favorite jeans or plain front pants or a short twirly skirt and sandals.

One of this year’s hottest trends is the boyfriend jacket/blazer, but the oversized slouchiness will look frumpy on a petite, large-chested woman, so try something trimmer, like Old Navy’s Cotton Twill One Button Blazer ($39.50) over something like Old Navy’s Ruched V-Neck Tee ($10).  Wear the jacket open or button that single button to cinch in the waist even further.  Pair it with boyfriend jeans and sandals and you’ve got a stunning but easy mom uniform.  

A more casual but similar effect can be achieved with a classic button front shirt, like Gap’s Stretch Fitted Shirts ($44).  Please note the lack of pockets.  No pockets, please!  Wear a modest scoop neck cami that’s closer to your skin tone underneath and leave open a few buttons at the top to give the illusion of showing more skin than you are.  Wear a shirt like this untucked over skinny/straight/ankle jeans and flats with delicate layered necklaces or a knotted, washed out printed scarf. 

  

Deep V and Wrap-Style Tops

Deep v-neck and wrap style tops are fabulous for large-chested moms because they actually draw a lot of attention to the face while separating the bust line, and they often show a lot less cleavage than one might think.  If you do find they’re still too low-cut for you, either just safety pin the neckline closed a bit higher or pair with lighter color and tone-on-tone tanks and camis to give the effect without an actual show.  

Check out Anthropologie’s Hourglass Surplice Top in grey ($48).  While it does have detailing, it’s not on the actual bust, so I feel pretty confident this should treat a large chest well.  Wear a whisper-thin heather gray or off white cami underneath for added coverage or layer a black cardi over it for those weather-that-could-do-anything spring days.  I would (and probably will!) wear this with anything from boyfriend shorts to skirts to jeans and dress pants.

A more structured wrap option is Banana Republic’s Petite Short Sleeve Wrap shirt ($59.50).  This top can easily be dressed up or down with jeans or plain front dress pants.

A third is Banana’s Petite Gathered Drape Knit Top, which has a wide, but high v-neck.  You’ll have to try this one on to see, because this type of detailing could end up adding volume, but I think the draping and gathering is simple enough that it will lift, separate and fall away from the belly, all very flattering for a new mom.

  

What about you, cyber Mamas?  Do you have more tips for staying modest while minimizing a large bosom?  

Thanks for writing in Charee, hope we were able to help!

- M

  

 

Winter / Spring Mom Uniform Idea: Dress + Leggings + Rainboots + Warm Accessories

One of my very favorite things about blogging?  Hearing from our fabulous readers.  And one of our readers sent in a pic so gorgeous, I knew I had to post it!!

Girls, meet Amy.  Amy is (obviously) pregnant, and rocking a very cool version of a daily mom uniform. 

Amy says she's been trying to "stretch the wardrobe I already have through these months of maternity madness--an infusion of scarves, cute shoes (that are actually flat), blousy dresses, and a few extra pieces that will work from now all the way through postpartum and nursing". 

She's right.  Cozy dresses, accessorized with an array of tights, scarves and flat shoes are one of the easiest and most stylish ways to get dressed in the morning.  And so flattering for new moms. 

When describing her outfit, Amy says:

"It's pretty much my uniform these days with all of this snow--drapey cashmere dress, cute tights, snow boots, and a big scarf.  I love this outfit because I can carry all of the stuff in my purse to make it a "nonsnow" outfit--a pair of ballet flats and a light silk scarf.  I seriously wear some manifestation of this getup at least 3 or 4 times a week.  And...none of it is maternity!"

This mom uniform works for both pregnant, new moms, and experienced moms alike.  For a non-pregnant version of this look, see our post on Gwenth Paltrow's Daily Mom Uniform. (Amy, you're in great company, style-wise!!)

For moms chasing a toddler around, swap out the tights for leggings - they'll give you a bit more coverage.

Amy is wearing a cashmere blend dress from Banana Republic, funky purple tights from J. Crew, Nordstrom's cashmere scarf and armwarmers (I love these things!!), and J. Crew Galoshes.

Galoshes (or rain boots) are a really great way to start transitioning winter outfits into Spring, and would probably be my first choice for rocking this mom uniform now!

Here's what I came up with, using Amy as inspiration:

  

I'm loving American Apparel's Chambray Henley Shirt Dress, $62.  It's completely on trend, and would look equally amazing this summer with a pair of nude platforms for date night as it does all cozied up here.  Wear this dress with a pair of black tights (Gap's are shown here), and some fabulous rainboots.  I can't stop thinking about Hunter's Original Gloss in Violet, $115 at Zappos.com.

To make this look winter-friendly, add in some fun armwarmers (I'm showing Michael Kors, on sale at Nordstroms for $29) and a gorgeous wool scarf.  I tend to wear lots of solid color clothing, so I like to add in a bit of pattern with a scarf.  The 100% Merino wool Gray Floral Scarf pictured above is a more interesting twist on the standard gray scarf, and can be found at SFMoma online for $65.

If things are still really chilly in your neck of the woods, you can further cozy this outfit up by adding thick wool socks over the tights (showing above the top of the rainboot), a long-sleeve layer under the chambray dress (let the sleeves peek out from underneath the chambray's rolled sleeves), and throwing the whole look on with a warm parka. 

Ugh.  I hate that I'm still talking about parkas....but March is often Denver's snowiest month.

Amy, thanks so much for sending in this gorgeous pick -- we just LOVED it.  And congrats on the new baby!  I remember well the "grandama-sized panties" you mentioned in your email...here in Denver the nurses referred to them as "sexy panties".  snort.  And as awful as they are....I LOVED them.  "soooooooo comfortable....aaaahhhh."  Disposable or no, I washed and wore mine more than I'd like to admit. 

xo,

S

Pic is courtesy of Jennifer Wilson of jennifer/brooks photography.  Offices in Washington, DC and Seattle.

  


 
 

What We're Reading This Week: Wearing Flats With Tights from Blue Collar Catwalk

Dear reader: have you ever considered the rule of thirds with regard to your flat footwear?  How about the sheen and texture of your shoes in relation to your tights?  Have you recently scrutinized the curves of your feet and how your flats accentuate them, either elongating or shortening your leg, depending on their fit?  No?  Mmm hmm. . .  I didn't think so.  

Neither have I, and I suppose that's why I've been largely unsuccessful at pairing flats with skirts and tights.  Not that I've tried that hard.  I either a.) spit and curse my 5'4" (and 5/8ths!) height, then put on a pair of heels instead, or b.) spit and curse my 5'4" (and 5/8ths!) height, then opt for trousers.  

"How many times have you put flats on with a pair of tights and just feel ... off? You either look barefoot, cut off at the ankles, or weighted down and a bit shlumpy. I think we've all been there. . . " the genius behind Blue Collar Catwalk sagely writes.  Kyla has pondered these questions and she nailed the formula in her recent post Flat Out Lovin' It Part 2 - Flats With Tights.  At 5'3" with a 30" inseam and looking as smack-down fabulous as she does, Kyla's definitely the go-to-gal on this subject.

Check out her post for the most insightful analysis of flat-wearing (with skirts and tights, no less!) heretofore and for some amazing styling tips that will inform your fall through spring wardrobe.

- M 

   

Reader Question: How Do I Spend a $200 Nordstrom Gift Card?

Reader Question: 

So, my last birthday I was VERY pregnant and couldn't come up with gift ideas because I was having trouble imagining life post-baby. My husband gave me a $200 Nordstom card as my present. I used to have no problem spending money there. But now after baby and with not working, I can't for the life of me decide what to spend it on. I could use some new things for spring because last year I was pregnant. Any ideas? I am comfortable spending a little more than just the card if it is on something essential or fantastic. 

- Liz

Answer: 

Happy birthday and congratulations on the new babe!  Having had two in the past 25 months, I can totally relate to not knowing where to start spending on yourself post-babe(s)--there's a lot of ground to cover when you've sat-out several seasons in elasticized pants. 

I love getting gift cards--they're always the perfect gift.  But, especially with a nice little chunk of change to spend, us moms need to exercise a lot of restraint.  What, with college funds and preschool costs looming, it's tempting to immediately hit the sale rack and go for quantity, not quality.  But if you're anything like me, those are most often the pieces you donate after wearing them a few times, so deep discounts aren't really a deal in the end. 

While I'm all for buying a few transitional cheapy pieces to get through the postpartum period, especially for your birthday gift I'd urge you to resist the impulse to go the clearance route unless you find something you really can't live without.  In other words, treat your gift card in the spirit in which it was intended--as a gift, and choose something accordingly.  By all means, buy something you can use, but make sure it's something you really want.  

Buy a splurge item, something you wouldn't necessarily purchase on a typical shopping trip, like one killer handbag, pair of shoes or an outfit that is going to make you feel like the amazing 1.) woman, and 2.) mom, that you are.  Since you've just had a baby, my top pick will always fit--handbags, which will turn up the volume on an inexpensive Gap, Forever 21, Old Navy, etc. transitional piece, and you'll still have it when you've reached your baby weight loss goals.

Crossbody Splurge Bags

A great handbag really polishes even the most mundane outfit, but if you're going to spend $200+, you should be able to use it every day.  I love the crossbody bag trend for moms and city dwellers as they free up your hands to push a stroller, carry your coffee and tote baby essentials, all while looking fabulous.  Check out these bright, spring-ey handbags that will pop a cheapy black jersey dress with flip flops, a tank and jeans with platforms and work togs, too.  I love the MARC by Marc Jacobs Totally Turnlock Natasha Crossbody ($328) in Acai Berry.  I have a Totally Turnlock satchel and now I wish I had this one, too--the leather is amazingly buttery soft yet durable and it has all the auxiliary pockets a mom could want while the bright color is on-trend for the season.  The Junior Drake "Cargo" Multizip Crosssbody ($248) in Ocean is another fav.  I have a Junior Drake convertible handbag in red, and again, the leather is soft, durable and lightweight--can't go wrong.  I'm starting to think I have a handbag problem as I write this, because I also have another version of The Sak Flap Crossbody ($199) in a cognac color.  The cream color option will go with virtually anything in your spring wardrobe.  Again, love love love.  The leather isn't as supple or lightweight as the MARC by Marc Jacobs or Junior Drake bags, but it is very durable and luxurious nonetheless.      

 

A Stunning Spring Jacket
To my chagrin, I found only a few really stunning spring jackets on Nordstrom.com and only one was within range of the $200 gift card limit although it's quite a bit over.  A fabulous jacket is a terrific go-to item.  Like a handbag, it's one of those things you can get away with wearing on a near-daily basis and that will polish even the most basic t-shirt and jeans ensemble. The William Rast Leather Jacket ($395) in cognac is a piece that will be exceptionally versatile and comfortable.  Wear it with a hubby-beater tank, boyfriend jeans and ballet flats or dress it up with leggings and a tunic.  The cropped length is meant to give show to whatever you have on underneath and the cognac color can go with either black-based or brown neutrals.

Splurge Shoes

Are you a shoe person?  I'm a shoe person, but I don't think I've ever purchased a pair of $300 sandals, though I'm tempted now. . . and if I had a $200 gift card and considering I already have some version of each of the handbags I recommended, I think I might just purchase the most amazing platform shoes I have seen in ages.  This is shoe love, ladies.  Shoe.  Love.  For your consideration, the Tory Burch Becket Wedge Sandal ($295) in denim.

If You're Dying for an Outfit

Liz, are you the mom we all hate?  Is whisper-thin rayon/spandex actually forgiving on your bum and thighs?  If so, check out this adorable outfit I would rock spring thru fall if I were that mom, or if I were 24 again.  The Ella Moss Knit Jumpsuit ($132) is right on point with the year's kickiest fashion statement and will allow for freedom of movement whilst chasing toddlers and wearing babes.  Pair it with platforms like the Jingman by Guess ($89.95) for maneuverable height and a splash of color. 

Need a more forgiving option?  Try an of-the-moment boyfriend blazer, like this gorgeous, 50% off Kenna-T Pinstripe in navy ($129.90 from $262) over a detailed racerback tank like the Ruffled Racerback by Splendid ($54) in lemon, paired with your skinny jeans and a snakeskin ballet flat or a delicate gladiator, like OTBT's Libia Sandal in canary ($59.90). 

 

Well, happy shopping and happy birthday to you, Liz!  Hope we were able to help.

- M