I. Am. Done. IAMDONE. That fact makes my head spin a little bit...it doesn't feel real. I don't have any more medications to take. No more shots. No more IVs, or bone pain, or nausea. The big stuff? The really tough stuff? Is over.
There are times when I feel a sense of excitement (Yay for me! I made it!!!)....but I was expecting to feel a...bigger sense of relief, I guess. Perhaps it hasn't yet hit.
Mostly I feel bewildered. Like, WTF just happened? I mean, it was May. On May 16th, I didn't have breast cancer. And now, just before Thanksgiving, I am a survivor.
So I get up in the morning and put on my outfits and cover what's left of the chemo rash on my face and hug my boys and make them breakfast.
But I'm tired. I'm forgetful. And I don't understand any of this. How a few short months ago I was fine, and then I wasn't, and now I'm on this insanely long road to recovery.
It'll be OK, I know. Someday I won't be so tired. Someday I won't wear a wig. Someday, perhaps, Pax (and maybe even Raines) won't remember 'that time when Mum was sick'. I get to be a part of their someday.
Mamas, my sister (the younger gorgeous blond in the pic above) has an assortment of denim cut-offs that are to die for. They are perfectly distressed, a worn-in blue that is nearly impossible to find, AND cheap. Oh, and they come in several lengths, which made them totally irresistible to my own mom.
Now that is grandma style I hope to be rocking someday.
Anyway, Scotti sources her shorty-shorts at two places: Abercrombie (worn by Scotti and I) and American Eagle (on my mom).
Here are my current favs - which are all currently on sale, BTW, for roughly $25!
Mamas!! This is our new monthly series called How We Wear It, where *we* show all of the different ways to rock a wardrobe basic. And by "we" I mean...all y'all. If there was One. Thing. our readers communicated LOUD AND CLEAR via the survey, it's this: You want to see a wider range of body types represented here on ANMJ.
So. I'll show you how I've been styling my old standbys, and so will Cam. And then, dear readers, we want to hear from YOU. You can play along via our Linky party at the bottom (you can sign up at the bottom of this article or on Cam's page), you can send us an email (send it to either Cam or I), upload a pic to ANMJ's Facebook page, or use Instagram with the hashtag: #howwewearit. As reader pics come in, I'll be keeping this page up-to-date.
Mamas, this article was inspired by a question I received from Martha. She wrote:
I recently discovered your blog and I am loving the inspiration to step up my mom style a bit, and ideas for putting more personality into my basics. I'm realizing, though, that I have a weird gap in my wardrobe. I have plenty of casual mom clothes (jeans, basic tees and sweaters, comfy shoes). My work wardrobe for a casual but conservative engineering office is jeans, cords, or cotton pants, "boring sweaters", and flats or conservative boots. And I love the rare opportunity to rock a cute dress and strappy heels. But for some strange reason, even before I had kids, I've struggled with what to wear for a dressy-casual night out, like to a restaurant or parties with other "grown ups".
It's true! Dressing way up is easy: dress, shoes, clutch, done. Wearing yoga pants is easy. But nailing the dressy-casual vibe in an effortless way is tough. It's easy to go overboard and end up with something that feels too fussy, too "done". Or, on the other side (like at a business casual office) you end up wearing all solid-color basics. Snore.
In the past, I've done both. Neither is fun, neither feel like "me". But there are a few pieces that I find myself reaching for time-and-time again, whenever I'm in the dressy-casual zone, be it work or Play* related. Keep reading to see both the list, and how I'm mixing up my own pieces.
(Play = Big Girl playtime and involves cocktails, play = kiddo play and involves dirt)
Mamas! The easiest way to give your old standbys a modern spin? Yup - the ankle bootie. These guys aren't new...in fact, two years ago, a very pregnant me wrote an article called The Short Boot Dilemma...where I tried to figure out how the heck to wear the various short boots that were popping up.
Well. Two years later, I'm happy to say that I've figured it out. Feel free to applaud. Two years in the making, baby. TWO.
Mamas, there's fun, 60's Mod vibe afoot. I love it. And one of the hallmarks? Yup - the Peter Pan collar. Retailers are currently stocking a range of Peter Pan collared blouses, tees and sweaters (remember M's adorable pullover from J.Crew?)....but I'm kinda loving the Peter Pan collar. As in, just the collar. A detachable Peter Pan collar. Why?
Well....it's slightly more cost-effective and versatile...but I just really like the way it dramatically changes the look of my t-shirt & jeans uniform.
Besides, the collars are totally mom-friendly (unless you find a jewel-encrusted one, they are soft enough for babywearing) and just look so...cute? But in the coolest possible way? Cute-cool? Is that a thing? Gag. Let's go with...charming insouciance. BAM.
After lots (and lots and lots) of searching, I fell in love with Very Vague's detachable Peter Pan collars. They are simple, hand-made, and gorgeous. She was kind enough to send me a black one and a plain white one to try....but she also makes fab patterned collars. Polka dot, anyone? And at $18 a pop, they are an easy way to transform the daily mom-i-form.
Here are the three very mom-friendly ways I've been wearing my Peter Pan collars.....
I am 9 month postpartum with twins and your site has really helped me get styling ideas for my new lifestyle and new body (read - huge boobs and poochy belly). I recently picked up this knit blazer at Land's End to help me look polished but be able to move freely to keep up with my now mobile twins...
...but everything I try it on with looks boring and predictable (like the model's outfit). Do you have any ideas for mixing interesting colors or patterns or silhouettes with this blazer?
Thanks for all your help!
Yeah...these blazers are surprisingly tough. When they first popped onto the scene I was excited: stripes AND a soft, sweat-shirty knit in a blazer? Yessss! But then...these blazers often look so darn preppy and, as you mentioned, predictable.
The key, I think, is to pair these with slightly subversive pieces. Which sounds scarier than it looks. Here's three ways I'd style these babies up:
*Note: In the collages, I'm using this Juicy Coture Blazer instead, simply because the pic was cleaner. But the LE knit blazer will work nicely here too.