I. Am. Done. IAMDONE. That fact makes my head spin a little bit...it doesn't feel real. I don't have any more medications to take. No more shots. No more IVs, or bone pain, or nausea. The big stuff? The really tough stuff? Is over.
There are times when I feel a sense of excitement (Yay for me! I made it!!!)....but I was expecting to feel a...bigger sense of relief, I guess. Perhaps it hasn't yet hit.
Mostly I feel bewildered. Like, WTF just happened? I mean, it was May. On May 16th, I didn't have breast cancer. And now, just before Thanksgiving, I am a survivor.
So I get up in the morning and put on my outfits and cover what's left of the chemo rash on my face and hug my boys and make them breakfast.
But I'm tired. I'm forgetful. And I don't understand any of this. How a few short months ago I was fine, and then I wasn't, and now I'm on this insanely long road to recovery.
It'll be OK, I know. Someday I won't be so tired. Someday I won't wear a wig. Someday, perhaps, Pax (and maybe even Raines) won't remember 'that time when Mum was sick'. I get to be a part of their someday.
Can one ever have enough styling inspiration for big, cozy sweaters?
No. One cannot.
Cozy Turtleneck + Moto Denim + Stiletto Boots
Why not pair the coziest sweater ever with tough moto skinnies and unbelievably sexy boots? WHY HAVEN'T I BEEN WEARING THIS ALREADY? It takes my breath, really it does. Clearly it's time to unearth my ancient pointy-toe stilettos from our scary basement. I'm confidant that I still have, well, one of them. Wish me luck finding the other. Sigh. #deathbyspiders
I've been playing around with different lengths of shorts...but the jury is still out, Mamas. I'm not sure I love this mid-length. I'll probably go back to rolling them up.
Anyway, my summer momiform (heck, my year-round momiform) consists of some kind of tee (give or take sleeves, depending on the season) plus denim. Like I mentioned last year in our Summer Style Rules article, I primarily rely on a cool shoe + bag combo to keep things interesting in the summer months. (If you missed it, my 2013 sandal picks are here...and bags picks are coming soon!)
But I have two accessory additions to the summer momiform this year: patterned belts and statement sunglasses.
To look my best every single day for a year or die trying. I will completely embody twelve looks, one look per month, in my quest to find a style that works for me. In the process, I hope to rid myself of total fashion intimidation and break free of a life long clothing rut.
She's currently on her boho month, but has tried rocker, mod, and Euro chic. Isn't that a great idea? But here's the best part: This chick is funny. Check out her blog banner:
...all you have to do is channel the ultimate icon for Bohemian style Stevie Nicks. Let Stevie be the poet in your shopping heart and if you can’t picture yourself in something on stage, tambourine in hand, belting out “Landslide” – it’s not Bohemian and it’s not for you.
Holly is craft-impaired (we have this in common) and was recently confused by a Starbucks barista as being her son's older sister, rather than his mom. (We do NOT have this in common.) But she's not letting it go to her head. She realizes that "the Starbucks counter is deceptively wide. Instead of the standard two feet, Starbucks employees are actually taking your order from space, hence, the fuzzy visibility."
And, BTW, her style is real, practical, genuine, thrifty, and TONS of fun. One of my new favorite blogs.
Holly, thanks SO much for writing in!! I'm now a huge fan.
Mamas!! We're starting a new monthly series called How We Wear It, where *we* show all of the different ways we're rocking a wardrobe basic. And by "we" I mean...all y'all. If there was One. Thing. you readers communicated LOUD AND CLEAR via our survey, it's this: You want to see a wider range of body types represented here on ANMJ.
So. I'll show you how I've been styling my old standbys, and so will Cam. And then, dear readers, we want to hear from YOU. You can play along via our Linky party at the bottom (you can sign up at the bottom of this article or on Cam's page), you can send us a email (send it to either Cam or I), upload a pic to ANMJ's Facebook page, or use Instagram with the hashtag: #howwewearit. As reader pics come in, I'll be keeping this page up-to-date.
*A note about the bubble necklace below. There are a ton of low-cost iterations (including ebay, where I purchased mine)...but these pieces are everywhere - it's now an over-saturated market. Expect to walk into any holiday party and see several. I'm now on the hunt for a new statement necklace. Anyone else interested in my finds?
Lastly, I asked Camille from Life in Modification to weigh in. To see how she'd take a day dress into night. Cam went a vintage-y / understated route, and the resulting look is quite pretty. It's amazing to see how a faux-fur collar adds so much sophistication and romance - very Grace Kelly, no? Love the midi length, also.
eShakti dress (fyi, it was customizable), AE cardi, Hush Puppies moto boots - similar, Target tights
This was the case with my stand-by J.Crew maxi. I just couldn't seem to winterize it in an interesting, yet comfortable way. And then I found these old pics.
These pics are actually from last Fall. I had somehow forgotten to post them. Even worse, I also forgot the styling that I had already worked out. Sigh. Mom brain? I suspect that the whole skirt knotting thing must have been in the back of my mind when I was styling Sarah's maternity maxi dress recently.
Anyway. My issue with this particular maxi dress is that when covered up, it's pretty snooze-worthy. The fabulous drape gets lost, as does the waist, as does the sexy flash of bare shoulder. Additionally, I have trouble with boots and maxi dresses. Sandals always work, but boots? So often they look strange. And nothing was cohesive. It looked like I was wearing a very boring, too-summer-y dress with a long cardigan and clumpy shoes. I hate when my outfits scream I AM DETERMINED TO WEAR THIS SUMMER DRESS IN WINTER BECAUSE I AM A CREATIVE FASHION BLOGGING TYPE.
Hi, My husband and I are invited to attend a black tie optional wedding in late August in Boston. I will be 35 weeks pregnant with our second and totally unsure of what to wear that will be appropriate and feel comfortable (who knows if the church is air conditioned, but it will be a full Greek-orthodox ceremony, so it'll be long). Some friends have suggested just wearing my black maxi dress from the Gap, but that seems woefully informal. Others keep suggesting things that are strapless. And though my milk hasn't come in, I am a girl who clearly needs straps on a top these days. Big straps. Any advice on shoes that will work for my feet which will likely be a bit swollen by that point would also be welcome!
Can a pregnant mama get away with wearing a very casual maxi dress to a wedding? Especially a black-tie wedding? I've seen this question pop up in forums around the web, and the answers are discouragingly inconsistent. Some say "Go for it! You a growing a human!!" Others are horrified by the thought.
My initial reaction? Your words of "woefully informal" sum it up nicely. But...MAN. 35 weeks pregnant? How ANNOYING to have to buy ANYTHING at that point. Especially a black-tie dress that will (most likely) never be worn again.
Happily, one of my oldest and dearest friends was struggling with this exact question. (Oddly enough, her name is also Sarah.) She is also pregnant, and needed help finding something to wear to my sister's wedding....also "black-tie invited". And this is her third and last pregnancy, so trust me when I say that buying a new dress was her last choice.
So. Just like in 7th grade, we played dress up. Here's what we tried, what didn't work....and what Sarah ended up wearing to my sister's wedding....
Attempt 1: Belted and Pearled
Sarah looks very nice here, but there is something about this outfit that still reads too casual for a wedding. Despite the fact that the belt is patent leather, I think it's causing problems. And we tried to offset the casual dress by piling on the jewelry. However, the necklaces are too much, and the bracelet seems like an afterthought.
Here's my challenge. I'm an aerospace systems engineer (yes, you MAY call me Madame Rocket Scientist) in Pasadena, CA and I have no idea what to wear to work when the weather gets hot. Oh, did I mention California? Yes, it will be 80-105 degrees here from now until November. That's half a year by my Excel spreadsheet calculations. My workplace is actually pretty casual, but the managers certainly dress nicer, and I've always heard you should dress like who you aspire to be at work. So, what to wear when skin is in season at the beach/park, but no so for those of us sweltering in their desk chair? Cut-offs, short skirts, flip flops, maxi dresses (any that scream "I'd rather be on a tropical island than here in this meeting with all of you!), bare arms, etc. are really not options. And, I am of course up to my elbows in mommy-mode (and other disgustingness) immediately before and after work so everything has to be kiddo friendly.
Tracy, I have a soft spot in my heart for geeks. Geeks who mention aerospace, spreadsheets and fashion? We should be BFFs.
As you know, engineering is a funny field from a dress-code perspective. It's not as conservative, as, say, some crusty old law firm, but neither is it consider creative, like marketing or a hip ad agency. And while my company flirted with a denim dress code in the heady dot-com days, the pendulum seems to be swinging back to fairly conservative roots.
Personally, I tend to favor a professional look, with touches of casual ease thrown in (especially in the summer). Here's a weeks worth of outfits:
MONDAY: Cheap, Modest, Summer Dresses
(wearing: Target dress, J. Crew belt, Marc Jacobs heels)
A few of my favorite places to find cotton summer dresses include Target, Shabby Apple, Modcloth, and Forever 21. Look for classic cuts with a bit of a sleeve in dark, conservative colors. I keep them professional with belts and closed-toe heels, and add cardigans (or blazers) to battle the air conditioning. The second I leave work I strip off the outer layer, and just run around in what is really just a cheap little cotton summer dress. Sometimes I'll even change into flip-flops.
NOTE: When buying cheap, you sometimes sacrifice fit. The Target dress above cost me $24, plus another $40 in alterations. Considering how many times I've worn what became a $64 dress, the CPW (cost-per-wear) is still in the pennies.